Build Community

Have you ever had a really bad cold or the flu? You know the symptoms, body aches, fevers, sweating, sore throats. Just thinking about it slightly makes me feel sick, but then relief comes. There is that awesome moment of respite when you finally take medicine or you take that first sip of warm tea. The moment when your body finally finds rest is anything short of magical.

Just like the body needs rest, our souls need rest too. As a twenty something, with the constant chaos of balancing work and everyday life, I am finding that my soul needs rest more and more. The past weekend, my soul was able to get that much needed rest, and what is better for any woman’s soul than a GIRLS’ WEEKEND! A friend and I were able to make the journey to visit two friends who live a few hours away, and man, let me tell you. It was amazing. We laughed, we cried, we danced, we sang (some of us better than others) and we ate a ton!


Just thinking about it makes me smile. As a twenty something, it gets so easy to get caught up in the rat race toward success. It is so easy to get caught in the hustle of the 9-5 life that you quickly find that there is less meaning and intention in your life. This past weekend was so needed to help remind me that not only is there intention and purpose for my life, but also that the meaning of my life is so intrinsically interwoven with other people.

Like me, my friends are all very independent women. I love that about them. They are go-getters, achievers, dreamers and doers. In the midst of our fiery need for independence is also a need to walk arm in arm with other people. We need each other. We need cheerleaders. We need mentors. We need counselors (that don’t charge). We need encouragers. We need someone to give us perspective when ours gets a little cloudy. We need comedians. We need shoulders to cry on. We need each other.

Twenty Something Advice (for Anybody):

“You’ll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else, a living breathing screaming invitation to believe better things.”

Jamie Tworkowski, founder of To Write Love on Her Arms

So who is your team? Who do you call on during the rough times? Who are your cheerleaders? As a twenty something, I can guarantee that you will need them. We are not meant to walk through this life alone. We need other people. Haven’t found your team yet? That’s okay. The funny thing about the twenties is that they are extremely fluid and full of lots of changes. There are always opportunities to meet new people. As the saying goes, “To have a friend, you must first learn to be a friend.” But when you find friends who are worth their weight in gold, hold on to them. They don’t come around every blue moon.

I hope you are encouraged to build community. To find people who bring hope and light into your life. People who love you enough to tell you the truth, even when it hurts. People who will lovingly correct you. People who will love you at your worst and cheer the loudest when you’re at your best. People who keep their promises and show up for you. People who will trust you enough to unload their baggage with you and give you the freedom to do the same. I hope, as a twenty something, that you are always encouraged to keep moving forward. More importantly, I hope you know that you don’t have to do it alone.

– Stephkt


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