I was recently nominated for a Liebster Award! (Thanks Lucy!) What is a ‘Liebster Award’?
Basically, it’s a challenge where you must answer 11 questions about yourself. Then, you must pass the challenge on to 11 other bloggers you admire. And write 11 new questions for them to. Self disclosure isn’t always a bad thing. So I thought I’d give it a try. I have accepted the challenge of my nominee. Here are my answers to the 11 questions from my nominator.
1. What’s the hardest lesson you’ve had to learn? By far the hardest thing I have had to learn has been about letting people and things go. I am a thinker, which is great…sometimes. I tend to over-think and dwell. What I have learned is that life is fluid. Everything is interim. Life comes in flashes. It is a dance with many beautiful exits and entrances. You do have to fight for things you believe in and people you love, but it requires wisdom to balance the fighting and the letting go. I have learned that letting go is a part of life, a necessary, hard yet sometimes beautiful part of life.
2. Do you have a motto that you live your life by? What is it? I think I have too many mantras to fit. I can tell you my two favorite at the moment. One is from Maya Angelou that says “When you know better, you do better.” The second comes from author Shauna Niequist, “When I think about the future, I try to write in pencil.”
3. What is your favorite publication and how often do you read it? This may sound nerdy but GL (Girl’s Life) magazine was my favorite magazine growing up so I’d love to work at a publication like that. I still love it today! For more mature reading, I think the USA Today is my favorite major publication to read regularly. There are also several publications that I don’t buy but still read regularly. At the hair dresser, Essence magazine is my go to. I love reading my brother’s Rolling Stone magazines when I am home. I also really love reading O, The Oprah Magazine. My roommate has a subscription!
4. Why did you start your blog? I started my blog as a school assignment my junior year of college. I thought I’d never blog. My train of thought was, “What do I have to say?” Well, I guess I was wrong. I have been off social media for awhile, and with that gone, blogging has become a major outlet for my thoughts and lessons learns as a twenty-something.
5. What did you want to be when you ‘grew up’? And are you on your way there? I had three dream jobs: singer, event planner and writer. When I was really little, I wanted to be a pop star. I really looked up to singers like Whitney Houston and Britney Spears (Yes, Oops! I Did It Again). I wanted to be like that someday, strong, powerful and all-woman. Next, I tossed around the idea of being an event/wedding planner. My first taste of event planning came in 5th grade when I planned my English teacher’s goodbye party. It was a pretty big deal for a 10-year-old to plan a party for 30 to 50 of her peers. Writing came into the picture early on as well. My first big ah-ha moment (as Oprah calls it) came in 5th grade, when that same English teacher read a story I had written to the whole class. We had to write short stories every month. We had to create the title, the characters, the plot and even got to create book covers and decorate them. A story that I wrote really grabbed my teacher’s attention and she went on about how great it was. I remember being so embarrassed, but it was from that moment that I knew I’d be a writer someday. I discovered more specifically the fields of journalism and screenwriting in high school and ever since then there has been no looking back. I am working my way through the magazine editorial world as we speak and hope to make a splash into the film world as my next big step.
6. BEST dessert you ever had: ____. Hands down: Cheesecake Factory’s Apple Crisp. Funny thing is I never get the cheesecake when I go there.
7. Favorite place in the world? I haven’t been yet! I have a bucket list of 5 countries that I have to see. Italy, Spain, South Africa, France and India. I am sure I will find a favorite city or place in one of those places eventually.
8. Where do you see yourself at age 30? (30, flirty and thriving?) Yes, hopefully 30, flirty and thriving (like Jennifer Gardner in my favorite movie, 13 Going on 30). My answer to this question is similar to my answer to #1. I have been learning about the fluidity of life and how everything does not go as planned. So I have learned to let go of all my presumptions about what life will look like at any particular age. Two years ago, I probably would have told you that by age 25 I see myself married with kids, working my way up some major magazine. I now understand that life is beautifully, unexpected. I have learned to write in pencil instead of pen. Wherever I am when I am 30, I do see myself happy, writing in something that makes a difference in the world, living in a city that makes me feel alive and surrounded by the love of family and friends.
9. If you could interview anyone in history, who would you interview and why? This one is tough. It’d have to be someone who I admire and aspire to be like. With that in mind, I’d say my grandmother. She is my all time favorite person. She embodied wisdom, strength and love. If I could have met her in her twenties and talked to her then, I would have totally wanted to sit down and get some life advice from her.
10. The last dream you had involved… The last dream I can remember having was me dating a guy in middle school who I never really even knew or talked to in middle school or high school. My roommate thought this was hilarious when I told her the next day! Before that, the most recent dream I remember involved a friend from college. She was heading to California and she had an extra ticket and invited me to come! If dreams forecast the future, I hope this one does!
11. What is your favorite slang word? Funny, my favorite slang word is also the word that used to make my stomach cringe…shawty. I absolutely hated when guys call girls that or when it was in songs on the radio. But I now use it as a regular greeting to my dad, my brother and my roommate. I love to say “What it do shawty?!” It is a real attention-grabber coming from me.